But don’t forget who you really are. And I’m not talking about your so-called real name. All names are made up by someone else, even the one your parents gave you. You know who you really are. When you’re alone at night, looking up at the stars, or maybe lying in your bed in total darkness, you know that nameless person inside you.
― Louis Sachar, Stanley Yelnats’ Survival Guide to Camp Green Lake
Every girl in the whole wide world wants someone that chooses them every single time no matter the circumstance. This is because only the people involved within the relationship can decide upon the various factors they will allow to split them apart. It requires a lot of resilience and will power and the constant requirement to stay level headed through various adversities. Of course this indicates great control of emotions and actions where accountability needs to be taken for both. It’s too easy to play the blame game and to pretend to be the victim. Responding to an issue is always more important than instant reactions without long term thought, being proactive rather than reactive because instant gratification is only ever temporary. There may come a time where the argument between 2 people is so destructive and in this circumstance it’s really necessary to just put your feelings aside and to empathise with one another and consider varying perspectives related to their decision. This is imperative to not losing the person you truly love.
Getting the girl is always the easy part but maintenance of a relationship is much harder. Everyone is deserving of a long lasting and loving relationship, there needs to be consistent belief in this. There are of course a multitude of things needed in a relationship to sustain itself such as mutual trust, courage, patience, good communication, respect and consistently choosing one another. When one of these factors disappears however the whole relationship will find itself very hard to survive. There’s a difference between love and being compatible but only you can decide whether you define yourself as both.
Having faith and hope is always important! The inability to come to a resolution is not the worst thing in the world though. Expectations and too much attachment will only ever lead to disappointments. Train yourself to see the good in everything and keep a positive mindset. People that want to stay will but otherwise, it’s okay to let them go, whatever happens, and is to come is usually meant to be xx
THE WORLD IS NOT ALWAYS FAIR BUT DON’T EVER LEAD WITH FEAR.
abusers will go ‘it makes me feel sooo upset when you live your life the way you want to and do the things you want to do, actually what you’re doing is victimizing me by not existing only as a support and validation to me you are so abusive and selfish and you should think more about how your sense of freedom and boundaries is negatively effecting me’
All I want is to ignore the rest of the world. I wish we didn’t live in a society. I find it hard living with myself still. I want to be better for him, I do this for myself but for you too <3
